at the valet. hey!

Allow me to introduce the newest addition to the dressing room: Purchased from a local friend in a downsize to her new place. *wrings hands* Bwahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaa! Eh-hem. Sorry. It needs love and attention, but I am quite giddy to have it. Oh, happy days! I am one step closer to keeping myself properly valeted. Journey […]

looking back: fancy dress party

Oh, how I love the occasion for fancy dress! I have spent a noticeable amount of the last three years making reasons to dress-up. Some time back, I met this most delicious creature, on a handful of occasions. We were kindred, and we knew so in that first moment. Her name was Amy; she was […]

two x twos

Sometimes, textiles offer the perfect pause from a challenging week. This evening, I luxuriated in my dandelion patch to let go of the exhaustion of the week. And by ‘dandelion patch’, I mean huge pile of silk neckties… Journey on, my lovelies!

the essential value of valeting

“One reason – a very great one – why the English gentleman is so much better dressed, on less money usually, than the American, is that the former is perfectly valeted (even though he perform this office himself), while the latter more often than not hasn’t the least idea what proper valeting means. First of […]

“what is Real?” asked the Rabbit…

Years back, shortly after my experience with cancer and chemotherapy, an on-line acquaintance re-introduced me to a passage from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. It was a brilliant allegory to the inward awakening I experienced during chemotherapy, as well as a statement of the trend toward superficiality and youth culture in the gay community… […]

that darned sweater!

A recent visitor showed me a few tailoring tricks; I hope to stretch them a long way in catching up with my mending and alterations… First off the needle: a green Aran sweater that I saved from a thrift store years ago. It cost a quarter and was full of holes, but the yarn and […]

a night out for first friday

Last night was another First Friday, KCMO’s monthly art crawl through the Crossroads Art District. And February brings the annual erotic group show at the Slap-N-Tickle Gallery. The Slap-N-Tickle is a space I am prone to dressing up to attend; it is a great, fun, costume-encouraging kind of place… Last night, I brought out the […]

celebrating the new with a shout-out to the old

Two-thousand eleven has arrived. I sent off the old year with a kiss and greeted the new one with a bang, spending the night with a big, beautiful lover of mine. We attended a small, well-met breakfast-for-dinner party with friends. I dressed in the best vintage find of the past year, a classic shawl collar […]